第24章过有意义的人生（8）
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2。又过了几天，年轻人变得沮丧不已。
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3。“你已经开始学了。”师傅说。
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1。Theexpertbrushedhimoffbecausehefearedthattheyouthwouldieolearn。
brushoff：刷去，刷掉；拂去，掸去；把……打发走
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2。astheexpertapproadbetoholdouthishand，hewasabouttoblurtoutthathecouldgoonnolonger。
nolonger：不再，已不
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专注你所拥有的而不是你想要的
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&hemostpervasiveaivementaltendenciesI’veseenisthatoffoantinsteadofwhatwehave。Itdoesomakeanydifferenuchwehave；wejustkeepexpandingourlistofdesires，whiteeswewillremaindissatisfied。Themisays“I’llbehappywhenthisdesireisfulfilled”isthesamemiwillrepeatitselfodesireismet。
&hisorthat。Ifwedoekeepthinkingaboutallthatwedon’thaveandweremaindissatisfied。Ifwedogetesimplyrecreatethesamethinkinginournewces。So，despitegetti，westillremainunhappy。Happibefoundwhenweareyearningfornewdesires。
Luckily，thereisawaytobehappy。Itinvolvesgtheemphasisfromhatwehave。Ratherthanwishingyourspousewasdifferent，trythinkingaboutherwonderfulqualities。Insteadofplainingaboutyratefulthatyouhaveajob。RatherthanwishiotakeavatoHawaii，thinkofhowmuyouhavehade。Thelistofpossibilitiesiseimeyounoticeyourselffallingintothe“Iwishlifeweredifferent”trap，badstartover。Takeabreathahatyouhavetobegrateful。Whenyoufowhatyouwant，butonwhatyouhave，youeiyouwantanyway。Ifyoufothegoodqualitiesofyourspouse，she’llbem。Ifyratefulforyourjobratherthanplainingaboutit，you’lldoabetterjob，bemoreprodudprobablyeingaraiseanyway。IfyoufowaystoenjoyyourselfarouhanwaitingtoenjoyyourselfinHawaii，you’llenduphavingmorefun。IfyettoHawaii，you’llbeiofenjoyingyourself。And，ifbysome’t，you’llhaveagreatlifeany
&oyourselftostartthiwhatyouhavethanwhatyouwant。Ifyoudo，yourlifeearihanbefore。Forperhapsthefirsttimeinyourlife，you’llknowwhatitmeaisfied。
专注于我们想得到的，而不是我们所拥有的，这是我见过的一种最具普遍性和破坏性的心理趋向。我们拥有多少，似乎并无太大区别，我们欲望的清单不断扩充，因而我们永远得不到满足。“当我实现了这个愿望，就会快乐”。一旦这个欲望得到满足，以后还会出现相同的欲求心理。
我们想要这个或那个。如果得不到，就会不断地去想那些没有的东西，总是感到不满足。如果得到了，在新的条件下，我们又会产生同样的心理。所以，尽管我们得到了，可还是不开心。如果我们一味地渴求新的欲望，将无法找到幸福。