第8章成功的DNA密码（7）
M。ScottPeck，M。D。，authorofthebest-sellerTheRoadLessTraveled，describesthistoolofdiseas“aprocessofsgthepainandpleasureoflifeinsuchawayastoehepleasurebymeetingahepainfirstaoverwith。”
Thismightiinedailydeethingassimpleasskippingafavoritelate-nightTVshowaobedearly，tobewideawakeforameetimhtiermresolves。Ayoungiththreedecidedtoiherilementiionforherself。Shesideredtherealitiesofatightbudgetaime，buttheseseemedsmallsacrifireturhatadegreewouldopen。Todaysheisahighlypaidfinansultant。
&ofsueingpastthedrudgeryahedelight。“Thefactisthatmanyworthwhileendeavorsaren’tfun，”sayssyndicatedradioandTVortCrim，“True，alllaymakesJohnnyadullbtoturhioplaymakesforterriblefrustrations，becauselife—everewardingone—includescesthataren’tfunatall。Ilikemyjobasajournalist。It’spersonallysatisfying，bititisn’talwaysfun。”
Agabalance
Neverfusedisewithrigidity。Perfeottheaim;rather，striveforthepeaindthatbeinginchargeofyourself。
Mostofuserludesinourworktotakeawalkoreatsnack-whateverrevivesandrefreshes。Yourbreathersdoobelengthytoshakeoutthedgivesomerelief。Suchrewardsativesforfinishingatask，asingyoutomaium。
Truediseachievesabalance，n。Evendiseedstobedised。
Self-development
Disedpeoplearehappierpeoplebecausetheyarefulfilliial。Awomanatoneofmyseminarstoldmeabouthersix-year-olddaughterithateamandpracticedeverymforanhour，swimming2，000to3，000meters，sherelatedaversatihterhadwithafamilyfriend。
“Doyoulikeswimming?”Thefriendasked。
“Yes，Iloveit。”
“Isitfun?”
“No!”
Thatsix-year-oldhadlearmanyadultshejoyofdisdself-development。Uheveryworddiseputsusoffbecauseitsouiveandpuruaalkingustomakesurewetoetheliruediseisn’tonyourbagyouwithimperatives;itisatyourside，nudgingyouwithiives。Whehatdiseisself-otself-g，youweatitsmention，butwillcultivateit。
CharleyBoswell，aformerUyofAlabamafootballstarwithhopesofaprofessionalbaseballcareer，losthiseyesightinWorldWarII，butthatdidn’tstophim“tobeetheNationalBlindGolfes。”HewasquotedassayiwhatI’velost。IonlytwhatIhaveleft。”Thatisself-development—thatisdise。
Habit-gstrategies
Manyaperson’sdowryingtogeabadhabitbyfoanundesirablebehaviortoreplaceit。
tlesspeopletellmetheywouldliketoeatbetterbutdon’twantto“giveup”tastyfood。Ratherthanthinkingaboutwhatthey’thave，theyshouldthinkaboutwhattheyeat。Fruitjuicewithsparklierisadelicioussubstitutefh-caloriesoftdrinks;snadcookiespreparedwithwholegrainsasgivedybarsgoodpetition。
Itisogeoldhabits。Awomaaseminarandsaid，“I’msoundised。I’tsticktoadietandmyhouseisalwaysamess。Ifeellikeaslob。”Itoldhershewasn’ttotallyundised。“Youmadeittothisce。Youarrivepromptlyatea，alydressed。”Shealmostsmiled，andthehere’sprobablyareasonwhyyouhaveoloseweightetyourhomeinorder。”
Later，Ifoundouttherewasabigreason。Sheedayearbefore。Herhusbandhadbeenanalcoholicwhoverballyabusedherall24yearse。Itneveroccurredtoherthatapoorself-imageingherfromeffegpositiveges。Withthisrealizatioheepinbringingmoredisetoherlife—bygoingforg。Meanwhile，someofherfrieoetoherhouseandhelpherup，puttingherevenmoresolidlyonahabit-gcourse。
Mier
IremembermyschooldaysandMularreveille:“Timetogetup!”Iagonizedihelastminuteandraieheodhadtogetmyselfup。Finally，tiredofakihatwhenthealarmrang，Iwouldrise—justbecauseIwaardlessofhowIfelt。Ithasworkedeversince。
InFeelingGood:Theherapy，DavidD。Burns，M。D。writes，“Motivatioefirst，adoes!Youhavetoprimethepump。Ifyouwaituntilyou’re‘inthemood，’youmaywaitforever。”Whenyoudon’tfeellikedoihiitoff，butit’softeiaskthatwebeehighlymotivated。
Diseishabit-f。Alittleleadstomore，becausethebesprlydesirable。Whenyoufinallyovereiia，youwillfeelbetterallarouourbest—physidmentally—lined。