第24章微笑的力量（1）
ThePowerofSmile
戴尔·卡耐基Daleegie
戴尔·卡耐基（1888—1955），美国著名的心理学家和人际关系学家。卡耐基开创的“人际关系训练班”遍布世界各地。他以超人的智慧、严谨的思维，在道德、精神和行为准则上指导万千读者，给予人们安慰、鼓舞，使读者从中汲取力量，从而生活，开创崭新的人生。早期著作《人性的光辉》《语言的突破》《美好的人生》《人性的优点》曾被译成28种文字，其中《人性的弱点》一书，是继《圣经》之后世界出版史上第二畅销书！
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1。grou。不高兴的人
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3。miserableadj。痛苦的
Youmusthaveagoodtimemeetingpeopleifyouexpectthemtohaveagoodtimemeetingyou。
Ihaveaskedthousandsofbusiosmileatsomeoneeveryhourofthedayforaweekaodtalkabouttheresults。Howdiditwork？Let’ssee。。。HereisaletterfromWilliamB。Steinhardt，aockbroker。His'tisolated。Infact，itistypidredsofcases。
“Ihavebeenmarriedfhteenyears，”wroteMr。Steinhardt，“andinallthattimeIseldomsmiledatmywifeorspoketwodozenwordstoherfromthetimeIgotupuntilIwasreadytoleaveforbusiness。IwasogrouchesnBroad>
“Wheomakeatalkaboutmyexperiehsmiles，IthoughtIwouldtryitforaweek。Sothem，whileyhair，Ilookedatmyglummuginthemirrorandsaidtomyself，‘Bill，ytowipethescoussofyourstoday。Ytosmile。Ahtnow。’AsIsatdow，Igreetedmywifewitha‘G，mydear’，andsmiledasIsaidit。”
“Youwarshemightbesurprised。Well，youuedherrea。Shewasbewildered。Shewasshocked。ItoldherthatiureshecouldexpectthisasaregularodIkeptitupeverym。”
“Thisgedattitudehtmorehappioourhomeihssiedthantherewasduriyear。”
“AsIleaveformyoffice，Igreettheelevatoroperatorimeha‘G’athedoormanwithasmile。IsmileatthethesubwayboothwhenIaskfe。AsIstandontheflooroftheStoge，Ismileatpeoplewhoulyneversawmesmile。”
“Isoonfoundthateverybodywassmilingbackatme，Itreatthosewhoewithplaintsrievanacheerfulmanner，IsmileasIlistentothemandIfindthatadjustmentsareaplishedmucheasier。Ifindthatsmilesarebringingmedollars，manydollarseveryday。”
“Isharemyoffiotherbroker。OneofhisclerksisalikableyoungdIwassoelatedabouttheresultsIwasgettingthatItoldhimreynewphilosophyofhumaiohewhenIfirstyofficewithhisfirmhethoughtmeaterriblegroulyretlygedhismind。HesaidIwasreallyhumanwhenIsmiled。”
“Ihavealsoelimiiysystem。IgiveappredpraisenowinsteadofnatiooppedtalkingaboutwhatIwant。Iamntoseetheotherperso。Ahierallyrevolutionizedmylife。Iamatotallydifferentman，ahappierman，ari，rifriendshipsaheonlythingsthatmattermuchafterall。”
Youdon’tfeellikesmiliwothings。First，forceyourselftosmile。Ifyouarealone，forceyourselftowhistleorhumatune。Actasifyouy，andthatwilltendtomakeyouhappy。Hereisthesychologistandphilosopherutit：
Astofollowfeeliioogether；aiion，whiderthemorediretrolofthewill，wedirectlyregulatethefeeling，whiot。
Thusthesnvoluntarypathtoess，ifouressbelost，istositupcheerfullyandtoadspeakasifesswerealreadythere…
Everybodyintheworldisseekihereisoofindit。Thatisbygyhts。Happidependonoutwards。Itdependsoions。
Itisn’twhatyouhaveorwhoyouareorwhereyouareorwhatythatmakesyouhappyorunhappy。Itiswhatyouthinkaboutit。Forexample，twopeoplemaybeinthesameplagthesamething；bothmayhaveaboutanequalamountofmoneyaige—aonemaybemiserableaherhappy。Why？Becauseofadiffereitude。IhaveseenjustasmanyhappyfagthepoorpeasantstoilingwiththeirprimitivetoolsiihetropicsasIhaveseeninair-edoffiewYeles。
&hihergoodorbad，”saidShakespeare，“butthiso。”
AbeLinarkedthat“mostfolksareaboutashappyastheymakeuptheirmindstobe”。Hewasright。
Wheneveryougoout-of-doors，drawthe，carrytheoftheheadhigh，andfillthelu；drinkinthesuyourfriendswithasmile，andputsoulintoeveryhandclasp。Dmisuoodanddoethinkingaboutyourenemies。