第2章爱无处不在HowtoFindTrueLove（2）
Atthetime，Ilivedwithabeautifulroommate。Flowerspiledupatourdoorlikesnowdrifts，aontheansweringmaealwaysblinkedinapanickyway，overloadedwithmessagesfromheradmirers。Limousiside，withdateswaitingforherbehindtintedwindows。Inmymind，lovewassomethiintedarition，partshadow，definitelyunreachable。Wheedhappy-lookingcouples，I’dwoheyfoutofollowthemhomefortheanswer。
AfterafewyearsiyIgotmydreamjaboutweddingsfazinecalled7Days。IhadtofiingengageddwriteuptheirlottoasktersthethingsI’dalwayswaoknow。
Ifouoothequestion“Howdoyouknowit’slove？”Youkheeverydaythingssurroundiheshadeoflightinthesky，abowlofstrawberries—suddehakiy。
Youkiailsaboutanotherpersoareinsignifiostpeople，seemfasgaoyou。Ooldmehelabouthisfuturewife，fromherhandwritingtothewayshescrattheirapartmentdoor，likeashee。Onebridesaidshefellihherfiancebeenight，amothwasflyingaroundalightbulb，aitathewindow。Isaid，‘That’sit。He’stheguy。’”Youalsoknowit’slovewhenyou’tstoptalkiher。AlmosteverycoupleI’veeverihatoorseddate，theytalkedforhoursandhours。Forsome，fallinginloveislikewalkingintoasoundproofalbooth，aplacewhereyoutellall。Findinglovebelikedisgagildedballroomohersideyapartment，aimelikefindingapairofgreatoldbluejeansthatareexactlyyoursizeandseemasifyou’vewornthemforever。I’ttellyouhowmaoldmetheykheywereiheyfottoaroundtheirboyfrieheyfellateasehangingaroundhiminflannelpajamas。There’ssomemoderntruthtoderella’stale—it’slovewhenyou’veincrediblyfortable，thesperfectly。
Finally，Ithinkyou’veinloveifyoumakeeachhattheveryworsttimes—whentheIRSisauditingyouorwhenyavertibleinarainstormorwhenyourhairisturninggray。Assomeooldme，90pertofbeinginloveismakiher’slivesfunnierahewaytothedeathbed。
SevenyearsagoIstartedwritingaboutloveandweddingsfortheimesinancalled“Vows”。AndnowthatIhavebeenof，astrahinghashappened：I’msideredaohis，loveisstillmostlyamysterytome。TheonlythingIfidentlysayisthis：Loveisasplentifulasoxygen。Youdohin，naturallyblond，super-successful，soed，knowledgeableaboutpolitiparticularlygtofindit。
&ervielenontheirlueveryway—aballerinawithis，aphysicistwhohadbeeed）disastrousblinddates，aetplayerwhowasasingledadandcouldbarelypaytherent。Butlove，whentheyfhthumor，dlelight，home-eals，fuure，poetryandloionsintotheirlives。
Whenpeopleaskmewheretofiellastoryaboutoneofmyfirstjobiwaswithaafamazine。Ihadnoexperienceorskills，aforonesesiderhirihegavemesomeadviceIwill。Hesaid，“Gooutintotheworld。Workhardaeonwhatyoulovet。Ifyoubeegood，wewillfindyou。”
That’seoplelookingforlovetowaitforthat“Iwoery”feeling-ait！Doiclesaboutho，seduotizeamate。Don’tworryaboutyourlipstickht，becauseit’snotgoingtomatter。Justliveyourlifewell，takecareofyourself，anddooomuch。Lovewillfindyou。
&uallyiteve28，Imetmyhusband。Atastatioore，Iwasbuyierribbon，andhewaslookingatFilofaxes。Irememberthathiseyesperfectlymatchedhisfadedjeahatmysneakerswerefullofsaalksaboutthosesneakersandhowtheyevokedhischildhood—boheonthesandinahosethingsthathecherished。
HowdidIknowthatitwastruelove？Ourfirstrealdatelastedforninehours：wejust’tstoptalking。Ihadodanmylife，butIcewithhim，perfestep。Ihavelear’slovewhenyoufinallystoveryourtoes。
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Ihaveetocherishwritingthe“Vows”oryIhear，Ihaveproofthatlove，optimism，guts，grace，perfeersandgoodlufact，exist。Love，inmyopinion，isnotafantasy，uffofromanovelsorfairytales。It’sasgrittyahesubway，itesaroundjustasregularly，andaslongasyoustickitoutoform，youwon’tmissit。