第13章每个成功者都知道的秘密（13）
WhenmydaughterwassmallIlivingheradvifacerelybelievethatshealsoe。ForthemostimportantthingaDaddoisgethischildreadyforlife。NotthatIeverthoughtIwasreadybutatleastIhavebeeosurvivemyyears，sofar。SheusedtositrealeoronmylapandIwouldexplaieriesoflifetoher。Iwouldtellherofmoralsahatmadelifeasgoodasitpossiblybe。Yearslater，whenmydaughterhitthewoeenagedyears，shedidn'tacceptmyadviceasshedidi。Infact，sheobviouslydreadedit。HaveittoheranywaybecauseIwaosurviveherteenagedyears。Isurvivedthemsowhyshouldn'tshelisteakeinthekIhadfromtheexperienypast。ForyearssheomeforadvicebutIuedtosubmitit。NowthatIthinkofit，myfatherdidthesame。
Soon，toosooartedherowwasasthoughourseparatioedthatshewouldoneed，a，myadvice。Atfirstthiswasagoodthing，inthatIappreciatedthefactthatshethoughtmyorththetime。AfterawhileIcametotherealizationthatImightnotalwaysberight。Istartedtofearmyowoherquestions。
Mydaughterisnottheonlypersoniasksforadvice。Mywifedoesitinanoddway。IkheaoherquestionbutitisalmostasthoughshewantstoiimeswhenIgiveheradviceshetakesitinandbasicallymakesherowndeesshegivesmethatoddlookthatasks，"lawereyoubornoherwayIdomybest。
Mypareedtoaskformyadvice。Thiswasverydiffietouand。MostofmylifemyfatheraheoodirehowIshouldhauatioheoneswhosurvivedtheiryearssothattheycoulddirectmetowardcorrectdeowtherolesseemtuessIshouldtakeitasaehisshiftihattheyhavefiherealizationthatIamakiow，ifIlybelievethissamerealizationandfinallyrelaxinmynewrole。
Myfolk'squestionsusuallysurroundtheirpreparatioagesoftheirlives。Ihatethesesituationsbecause，ifIadmitthattheyaregettingold，IamliterallyresighefactthatIamnotfaroff。IaioasI，prayingthatIamadvisiherightthingsbuthowcouldIpossiblyknow？Unlikegiviomydaughter，giviomyparentsinvolvesmeguessingwhattodowithouttheexperiengthroughwhattheyarepresentlyguesstheyaskmebecausetheytrustme，likeIhavealwaystrustedthem。
Iamateafact，Iamahighschoolteacherithyoungadultswhoareabouttoembarkoincludecollege，themilitary，orwork。EverydayIamaskedquestihowtheyshaheirfutures，awayfromalifethatteredontheirpubliostpeopledon'trealizethatgraduatingfromhighschooliso&quhtsofpassag"oursocietyhas。Thisistruebecausetheseyoungareleavihadtakenupover75%lives。
So，Iadvicethemastowhatindustrieswillbeimportaheygetoutofcollege；whatmilitaryservicetheyshouldlookinto，ioachievewhattheythioaesjusttotelltheseyoungmelifeisawandthattheyarefortuageoftheirliveswheretheyareabouttobeeadults。EverytimetheyleaveIpraythatIgavethemgoodadviybest。
&imespeopleIdon'tknowaskformyadvice。Theparentsofmystudentsusuallyaskwhattheyshoulddotomaketheirchild'sfuturebright。Sometimestheyaskwhattheyshoulddobecausetheirchilddoesn'tlistenordoesn'tbelievewhattheyaretellingthem。Iassumetheyaskmebecausetheybelieveateachershouldknowtheahatortheylookatmygrayhairandbeardamyageesmyabilitytoknow。
ThebasiwithWebster'sdefinitionofadviceisthatitdoesn'ttakeintoattheadvisor。Doestheadvisoruheproblemaheabilitytohelpwithadethepast，didIgivemydaughter，pares，ahecorrectadvice？
IthinkI'llgivemydaughteradaskherforsomeadvice！
韦氏字典中“建议”一词的定义如下：“对某种行为提出意见或忠告。”