第3章喜欢自己更多一点（1）
LikingYourselfMore
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1。apologetically[？，p？l？'d？etik？li]adv。道歉地
&eem['selfis'ti：m]n。自负
3。subtle['s？tl]adj。微妙的；精细的
4。spire[k？n'spai？]v。密谋
5。lionizes['lai？naiz]v。把……奉为名人
6。humiliating[hju：'milieiti？]adj。丢脸的
7。pareto把……比作，比喻为
8。struggleto努力奋斗，竞争
&in坚持，固执于
10。capitulate[k？'pitjuleit]v。屈服
11。iude[i'ju：d]adj。无能
12。inferior[in'fi？ri？]adj。劣质
&uroafriendwhinmydaskedher，“Whatdoyoulikeaboutyourself？”Werodeinsilenceforseveralminutes。Fiomeandsaid，apologetically，“Ikofanything。”
Iwasstunned。Myfrie，g，andpassioshe’tseeanyofthat。
Ikaloeemhasbeethenumber-oneissueplaguieGod’sassurahe’sabsolutelyostofus’tbelievehemeansus。It’sliketheicaleditorwhotellsthecubreporter，“Ifyourmothersaysshelovesyou，checkitout。”
Iorterfor12years。OhingsIlearnedinreseargastarbagei。”Ifyourrawdataisflawed，youendupwithafaulty。Thesameistrueeseeourselves。Ifwelackself-ce，maybeithfla>
&yis，inhundredsofsubtleways，ourculture，family，friehoughtlife—spiretoundermineource。Wegrowupinfamiliesvoidofaffirmatiemehebuildingblockstoself-wefindourselvessmathemiddleofaworldthatliowoHollywoodstarletsandBarbie-dollfigures。Ourpaycheck，ourtitle，orsomeotherartificialyardstickgivesustemporaryeheworldofTheAccepted。Butis，weknowitisn’treal。Howdowefindourwaytothetruth？
I’mteybrotallthegeouaingmanuals，ts，ortomakesenseofputers。WhenIfirsthadtolearnhouterformyjob，IwasceditwastheendoflifeasIk。
Irememberwithpainfulclarityabeginner’sputerclasswheretheinstructortoldusto“pressanykey”。Isearvainforthe“aheendoftheclass，IwasIwasn’tsmartenoughtodrivemyselfhome，muchlessdressforworkthehisitethefactthatImanagedahome，afamily，ajob，andaprofessionalstaff。
Whywasitsohumiliating？Beyselftothe1irldoorwhoeffortlesslysurfedtheoresearchhertermpaperswhileIstruggledjusttologon。Insteadofsimplygthatteicalprowessisrengths，IcludedImustbestupid。It>
Peoplerespectusasmuchaswerespectourselves。That’swhytheabsenceofself-telegraphtoothersnottobelieveinus。
Fgledtoreentgraciously。Ifsomeoneentedmyhair，I’ddistit。I’dsaymyhairstylemademyfacelookfatorthatmyhairwasamousycolor。WhatIreallymeantwas，theremustbesomemistake。I’mnotward。Idon’tlikemyselfand’treallybelieveyoudo，either。Thetroubleis，ifwepersistinputtingourselvesdowuallypeoplestarttobelievewe’reright。
&heproblemisn’tfaultydata。Wehaveaureofourselvesorasituatioulatethefirsttimesomeonegesus。